My Orgasms Aren’t What They Used to Be
Sex Question from a listener: I’m in my early 70’s and my orgasms aren’t what they used to be. I can have them, but they take much longer to reach. Is this related to aging? If so is there anything I can do about it? I miss my quickie orgasms!
Here’s the reality: everything changes with age—including our sexual response and functioning.
As we get older, tissues become thinner and blood flow decreases, which can make arousal, pleasure, and orgasm a little harder to come by than they used to be. But before you start planning a funeral for your sex life, know this: aging is not the end of pleasure. Not even close.
In fact, there are plenty of tools and techniques that can help keep your ticket to O-Town valid for years to come.
If Internal Stimulation Is Your Thing
For people who typically enjoy internal stimulation, vaginal dilator sets can be a helpful tool for maintaining tissue flexibility and comfort. While they're often prescribed by healthcare providers, they can also be purchased from adult stores and usually come in graduated sizes.
Start with the smallest size, add a generous amount of high-quality lubricant (find our faves here), and gently insert it. Slow, circular, spiral-like movements can help "wake up" the tissue and increases circulation. As your comfort grows, you can gradually move up to larger sizes. Consistency is key, and many people find that making this a regular practice yields the best results.
The Magic of Vibration
Want more blood flow? Add vibration.
Vibrators are fantastic for increasing circulation and enhancing sensation, especially when the body needs a little extra encouragement to get the party started. If you're exploring internal stimulation, look for a vibrator with a tapered tip and a slimmer profile for comfort and ease of use.
Think of vibration as a personal trainer for your pleasure anatomy: showing up, doing the work, and helping everything perform at its best.
When External Stimulation Needs an Upgrade
If external stimulation has always been your go-to but your old techniques aren't delivering the same fireworks, it may be time to bring in some backup.
Enter the wand vibrator.
These powerhouse devices may look like back massagers, but they've earned legendary status for a reason. Used on or around the clitoris, wand-style vibrators deliver deep, rumbly stimulation that many people find incredibly effective.
The Magic Wand remains our top recommendation. It has been a fan favorite since the 1980s and has built a reputation as one of the most reliable pleasure products on the market. If your hands have been faithfully doing the job for decades, think of a wand as your hands after a promotion, a raise, and several cups of coffee. It can provide stronger, more consistent stimulation with far less effort. We recommend investing in the Magic Wand Waterproof for even more power and the ability to play in the tub.
Other Options in the Medical World
There are also a ton of advances in the medical world regarding sexual health and aging. For vulva owners we now have The Diva laser treatment that can bring back more sensation and elasticity in the internal vaginal tissue. There’s also the O-Shot - a non-surgical treatment that uses platelet-rich plasma (PRP) to help rejuvenate the clitoral and vaginal tissues to improve responsiveness during intimacy. These services are generally offered at medical centers and Med Spa’s that specialize in sexual health, but be sure to ask your doctor for more information and referrals.
In conclusion, your body may change with age, but pleasure doesn't have an expiration date. Sometimes it simply requires new techniques, a little creativity, and the right tools. With a willingness to adapt and explore, O-Town is still very much on the map.
