Sex Question: What is the difference between squirting, orgasm and climax?

Question: I'm 32 from Ontario Canada 🇨🇦. My wife and I are high school sweethearts. We started dating at 15, she was my first and I was her second. Long story short - we were married at 19 and have four beautiful kids together. We have a very close relationship and do everything together. I'd say we have a very good sex life and have been open to try many things. We have brought toys and bdsm in to the bedroom and love it.

I recently listened to your one show "pussy praising" and absolutely loved it and it really made me re-think taking my time with my wife to give here the absolute best I can.

My question is Is this: How do we know when she orgasms or climaxes or are they both the same? I can honestly say after listening to the podcast and taking time slower than slow that I bring my wife to a unbelievable sensation and bliss. It’s so fucking hot when she gushes or even "squirts". I have brought her to a point where she has gotten all tingly right down to the toes. Would this be her coming to a full release and orgasm?

Love your show keep up the good work! I APPRECIATE YOU'RE TIME. 

Answer: Thank you for the kind words and F YES for pussy praising! The definitions of orgasm and climax vary from person to person, AND they can essentially be the same thing. However, I’m a BIG fan of Barbara Carrellas’ definition of orgasm as an (ecstatic) experience that transforms you for a period of time, whereas climax is usually that moment of euphoria that you feel from pleasurable genital contractions. The latter is nice but the sensations are often temporary, whereas the former lasts and lingers and charges you up in some way. 

Ejaculation/gushing/squirting can be a part of orgasm/climax, AND it can also be it’s own thing that just feels like a really nice release. 

My advice: A. Ask your partner! You can even ask them to assign a number to their experience. On a 1-10 scale where a 1 is no sensation/pleasure and a 10 is mind-blowing pleasure, ask them if they are open to assigning a number to the experience (after the session, and just on occasion unless they want it to be a regular thing), and B. Perhaps try moving away from the need to know if it’s orgasm or climax and move towards how impactful the sensations are (in other words, the actual experience). 

I hope this helps. And keep up the good work pussy praising!